A pregnant wedding guest was labled “rude” by a bride for bringing her own food to the event.
In a new post on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A——?” forum, the guest wrote that she and her husband were recently invited to a wedding featuring mostly vegetarian and vegan dishes. The poster, who described herself as “a meat eater,” said she “wasn’t particularly keen on the menu.”
While she insisted that she would normally not make a fuss and “just eat whatever,” she explained that she is pregnant and has been experiencing “horrible bursts of really intense hunger.”
“I want mostly carbs, and there weren’t really any on the menu. There were some cheeses but the staff couldn’t say if they were pasteurized or not, so I couldn’t have them,” she continued, noting that she was especially concerned about what she’d eat because the wedding festivities were spread out across three days.
“My solution was taking some food with me. I took a small mini fridge to have in my room, and brought stuff to make sandwiches and a few snacks. When I was hungry, I’d pop to my room and have something to eat,” she wrote.
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However, it seems her excursions to sneak in some food did not go unnoticed by the other guests. “Someone asked why I was going to the room and I mentioned I was just getting something to eat,” the OP explained. “This got back to the bride, who said I was rude and implying the catering wasn’t good enough.”
The guest concluded her post by asking people to share their opinions on the sticky situation and whether she was in the wrong.
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The majority of the commenters assured the OP that they didn’t see an issue with her bringing food along with her and eating it in the privacy of her room, especially considering she is expecting.
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“You are pregnant. Eat what you want to eat!” one person wrote. “You didn’t bring out a full meal at the table and ignore what was presented to you, you brought extra food that you knew you’d enjoy and you ate it in the hotel room.”
Another person chimed in: First of all, you’re pregnant, so you might not be able to tolerate the food that was provided. Secondly, it wasn’t like you were bringing a big tray of food to the reception and eating it there, snubbing the catering. You were very discreet about it, and honestly, the way you went about it is probably the best way that you could have done it.”
Several people commented to say that while they don’t think the OP’s behavior was rude, they could sympathize with the bride’s perspective on the issue. “I can see your point of view, but I 100% can also see why the bride was miffed. Months of planning and worry about things like the menu being right,” someone wrote.
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Another person added of the bride, “I get that she likely had to pay to cater your portion of food and is miffed that you aren’t eating it. But that’s a risk people take when they decide on a specific menu. There’s always going to be somebody that isn’t into it.”
Yet another commenter suggested that the bride may have overreacted “from a place of embarrassment.”
“You spend A LOT of time and energy planning a wedding hoping it’s all that. And to find out someone is sneaking off to eat food…I could see her being upset and embarrassed as the host, perhaps thinking she didn’t plan well and then spiraling out that everyone hates her wedding,” they wrote.